SELF MOTIVATED

Save Your Relationship

2012-01-12T00:16:00.000-08:00

There are two extremely painful experiences we all face in life: Death of a loved one and the end to a meaningful relationship. Death is something that can't be stopped. It's something that we all have to face.

The thing that kills many relationships is the words that are said out of anger. Once you say something, you can't take it back. Many times, when we get into an argument, the main point of the argument gets lost and we end up arguing about things that are way off the original topic. Has this ever happened to you? Sometimes, just to prove that we are right, we will say things we don't mean just to "win" the argument.

If you ask that question, you will see that the majority of the time, whatever it is the argument is about, your answer will be a resounding, "No!" I'm sure you've had this happen where the argument starts off as a minor one, over something stupid, but then grows into something more serious just because neither side was willing to lose.

When you understand that small arguments have a tendency to grow into big ones and that big ones can grow into arguments that can destroy the relationship, you would think twice about wanting to win the argument. That's why asking yourself whether or not the petty argument is worth risking the relationship over is so useful. Too many times during the midst of an argument, we forget that the person we're debating with is the most important person in our life.

When you start making it a habit of asking this one important question, you will be able to calm down and remember what's really important, the love you share for one another. So the next time you argue over something like who left the toothpaste cap open, just ask yourself the question. If the answer is no, just give them the win. Once tempers are back to normal, you can discuss it further when the both or you are in a lighter mood. Use this one question often. It could save your relationship.

Positive and negative thinking are both contagious.

2012-01-12T00:01:00.000-08:00

All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.

Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.

Let go of the past

2011-01-12T11:48:00.000-08:00

Believe it or not, one of the best demotivators is your past. Your past can drag you down before you realize it. Your past can give you a heavy burden on your shoulders.The good news is it’s a burden you don’t have to carry. Take it off your shoulder and leave it. You might make mistakes in the past. You might disappoint others with what you did. But it’s over. It’s already in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Today is a new day and you have the chance to start again. No matter how bad your past might be, you still have a bright future ahead waiting for you. Just don’t let the burden of the past stop you.

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10 Terrific Self Motivating Tips

2010-10-10T23:43:00.000-07:00

No one can motivate anyone to do anything. All a person can do for another is
provide them with incentives to motivate themselves. Here are ten very effective
strategies to help you get up and get moving toward actualizing your enormous,
untapped potential.

1. Be willing to leave your comfort zone. The greatest barrier to achieving your
potential is your comfort zone. Great things happen when you make friends with your discomfort zone.

2. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Wisdom helps us avoid making mistakes and comes from making a million of them.

3. Don’t indulge in self-limiting thinking. Think empowering, expansive thoughts.

4. Choose to be happy. Happy people are easily motivated. Happiness is your
birthright so don’t settle for anything else.

5. Spend at least one hour a day in self-development. Read good books or listen to inspiring tapes. Driving to and from work provides an excellent opportunity to listen to self-improvement tapes.

6. Train yourself to finish what you start. So many of us become scattered as we
try to accomplish a task. Finish one task before you begin another.

7. Live fully in the present moment. When you live in the past or the future you
aren’t able to make things happen in the present.

* Commit yourself to joy. C.S. Lewis once said, “Joy is the serious business of
heaven.”

8. Never quit when you experience a setback or frustration. Success could be just
around the corner.

9. Dare to dream big dreams. If there is anything to the law of expectation then we are moving in the direction of our dreams, goals and expectations.

10. The real tragedy in life is not in how much we suffer, but rather in how much we
miss, so don’t miss a thing.

Change your mind

2010-06-29T03:52:00.000-07:00

Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising. Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly.

Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits. In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success. Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary. Are you willing to make a real inner change? Are you willing to change the way you think? Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?

Take control of yoursel

2009-06-27T10:26:00.001-07:00

Attitude defines people from each other. There are optimists and pessimists. Optimists see all the positive sides of things while a pessimist sees all the negatives. Although it is true that it is impossible to control things around you but you can take control of your responses to things surrounding you. For instance, on your way to your office there was an accident that causes major traffic on the road. An optimist instead of getting angry would probably pray to thank God that it was not him/her that has met the accident and will pray for the recovery of those people who are injured. On the other hand, a pessimist would be flaring up and cursing whoever has caused the traffic.

Start Each Day with a Positive Attitude

2008-06-27T10:24:00.000-07:00

Each morning upon waking up try to pray and ask for guidance and blessings. Afterwards try to have a positive affirmation like for example telling yourself that today is a great day and that nothing wrong is going to happen. I am going to achieve great things today even if some of my officemates are spreading negative rumors about me. I won't let them affect me. I know my abilities and myself. I am going to be fine and will be able to perform well on my tasks today. I will turn the whole negative situation into may advantage. How? While my officemates are all busy gossiping about me I will try to double my productivity so that I will be able to get ahead of them in terms of output.

SEEK HELP

2008-06-27T10:23:00.000-07:00

Enlisting the help of others does not mean that you are weak. It just shows that you also trust the capabilities of other people. Having a positive attitude doesn't mean that you have to live alone or to work alone on the contrary a positive attitude can help you in obtaining better interpersonal relationship with others. A positive attitude can even help you to win lots of friends.

Carry a Treasure Trove of Happy Memories

2008-06-27T10:21:00.000-07:00

When things are getting you down think of happy thoughts. Think of the times that you were happy. Why you should do this? To remind you that life is not all sorrows and pain. Happy memories can help perk up your spirit. How you live your life is completely your choice. If you prefer to be happy then you will be however if you want to be miserable then that is your choice. A negative perception of life often leads to negative outcomes on the other hand a positive outlook of life bear rewarding results. Aside from that, positive thoughts also make people happy. People with happy disposition are more productive and develop better interpersonal relationship with others. Plus there are also evidences suggesting that people with positive attitude have longer life span. Why? Because positive thinking helps maintain a healthy immune system which in turn prevents illnesses.

Forgive and Forget

2008-06-21T10:25:00.000-07:00

Do not blame yourself for bad things that happen to you in the past. Remember that all things happen for a reason. Forgive yourself as well as all the people that hurt you. Afterwards forget everything and then move on with your life. Each day is a new day to begin a new.